Ratliff Rants

Various rants on lifestyle, people, health, and politics…

Tag: living life on your terms

Isn’t It Time You Shipped?

My neighbor hates his job.

He struggles to go to work each day, worrying about what his boss thinks…getting pages every day while he is at home…all from a 9 to 5 that pretty much runs his life in his mind.

But yet he still goes…

He has this talent for writing absolutely stunning short stories and essays.  He has a talent for speaking in front of groups of people at his hated job.

Yet still hasn’t shipped any of that to the world however.

He’s 49.

I’ve asked him, “Why do you go to a job you hate, working with people you hate, earning a wage you hate?”

He replies “Because I have a secure income, and in this economy…”

I stopped him from finishing that statement.

I get sick to my stomach every time I hear it from someone in his position (and boy are there a lot of people in his position).

So I asked him, “Don’t you think it’s more of a risk going to a job you hate when you consider the risk to your health, the stress, the impact on your family, and such?”

(because I’ve been in the same position myself)

Then I asked… “And… how bad could it really get if you tried to use your gift of writing and speaking to form a work-at-home business…even if it took several more months at night when you get off of work to start the business?”

He couldn’t answer that question…but he is thinking about it.

Isn’t it time you shipped your gift to the world?

We’re waiting. 🙂


The 80/20 Rule And Life…

The Pareto Principle (the 80/20 rule):

The Pareto principle (also known as the 80-20 rule, the law of the vital few, and the principle of factor sparsity) states that, for many events, roughly 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes.

From Wikipedia

Based on this logic, there are a number of lifestyle changes you could, and should be making or have made which would probably have a significant impact.

A few of many examples:

  • When you clean your house, should you spend all-day cleaning it?  Do people really care if you make it perfect?  Or, could you clean it “most of the way”, and actually enjoy life a little…knowing people probably won’t even notice the parts you didn’t clean?
  • Could you shift your focus towards only doing 20% of the projects you want to accomplish in a day/week/month if you focused on the most important ones?  This is of course with the understanding that by doing the most-important 20%…you will get 80% of the results of doing it.
  • What if you only picked the top 20% most-important of all of your “required” commitments, could you ditch (or say no) to the remaining 80% and live life the way you wanted to during that newly found time?
  • And on…and on…

There has to be a number of things that you can think of…

…where if you did the most-important 20% of those things…

…that got you 80% of the results given by doing those things…

You could forget doing the remaining 80% of those things altogether.

What I’ve revealed here is a big, deep, secret to my life that has allowed me to enjoy life at a pace and with a quality that cannot be matched.

I wish you the same quality of life (or better) for 2011.

Get to it.

The Phone Rings…And You’re Probably Getting It

I’ll bet that if the phone rings while you’re reading this, you’ll run from here to that phone (or pick it up) and answer it, no matter what.

Ring ring!

But why?  Isn’t that what answering machines and voice mail are for?

Imagine if you were the one in control of your time, and didn’t have to run across your big house to get it…just to hear one of those annoying telemarketers on the other end.

I know there’s a such thing as caller-ID, but why run across your house to look?  Why not finish whatever it is that you’re doing…THEN answer the message you get on your machine or voice mail?

And before I hear a “But it’s rude not to answer the phone when it rings” or any thought that even comes close to resembling that…it isn’t.

So, I challenge you to turn your ringer off, and check voice mail (or your machine) when YOU want to…not because that ringing sound made you.

At first, it will be challenging, you think that there “could be an important call you’re missing.”

But I’m not asking you to NEVER answer your phone, just not on it’s command…instead on yours.  Even if the call is important, NOTHING is important enough to keep you running back and forth every time the phone rings.  (you’ll actually discover that 95 out of every 100 calls or so aren’t really that important at all)


The feeling of liberation you’ll feel  when you’re back in control of this part of your life will astound you.

So get to it…regain some control of your life.

Living Life Like A Dog On A Chain…

The boss calls…you have to give up your dinner again…

…the doctor needs you to do those tests on Friday…

…the phone rings and you’re on the other side of the house…

…you just gotta send that text NOW, because who knows what would happen if you waited for an hour…

…sacrifice, sacrifice, sacrifice…

Living life like a dog on a chain is great right?  No?

Anyone who says you HAVE to live life this way is feeding you a steaming pile of cow dung…period.

And, on top of that, there is only one person to blame when you feel like you’re being “pulled apart” by life in general…or when it seems like you’re too busy.


You and you alone make a conscious choice to accept all of these interruptions, to live life according to when “they” (whoever “they” are) schedule it for you.

If you don’t take control of your time, someone or some event will gladly take control of it for you.

Think about that today.

If You Don’t Live Your Life, Others Will Be Happy To Control It For You…

I love it when people say things like:

“Oh, I’m soooo busy right now with ‘stuff’/’this thing I’ve gotta do’/etc…”

“I would like to do ______ , but I’ve gotta attend/do _________ “

And on, and on…

What.  The. Fuck?

Are you serious?

Hey folks, if you don’t control your time (read: live life the way YOU want to, on YOUR terms)…then other people will be happy to control your life / time / activities for you…if you let them.

Notice the common theme here?

If you complain about “not having the time” to do anything it is you want to do, then you probably allowed this to happen in some form (letting someone else control it for you).

Unbelievable.  If you don’t want to do something, don’t.  No one said you HAD to do certain things, attend certain events, be a “team player” etc…

In every case, it was YOU who decided to let those things happen…period.

A parting thought for this rant…

Is it your life or “theirs?”

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